Wednesday, July 3, 2013

Picture overload and some thoughts on my own marriage.



                                             ^^^ ridiculously happy about date night!





                    ^^^ a meal from our garden! sage and egg, sauteed beet greens and beets!












these pictures are from the past week or so. we've been enjoying our summer so far, swimming a lot, being with friends, and date nights! jonathan and i were so over the moon excited when my dad told us to go out on not just one date, but two! we have only been on two dates since last november, so the idea of going on two dates two nights in a row felt like a mini holiday. we were refreshed from the core out and for the first day of our date we ordered thai food and ate in our yard and then headed to the movies. the second night we headed into the mountains to eat at one of our favorite restaurants. we had a three hour long dinner and afterwards took a walk through the tiny mountain town and talked and laughed, and laughed!!! we stopped along the look outs on our way home taking in the mountain views and more important, taking in each other. we remembered how we met, talked about how much we love each other, and reviewed the way we could improve in treating each other better, with more respect, more kindness, less stressful responses in our marriage. at the end of this summer we will be celebrating 8 years of being one. what we won't celebrate is how its always been perfect, how we've never brought up divorce, how easy it is to love each other. no, in fact what we will be celebrating is just the opposite. we will rejoice in wanting to get divorced and not! we will rejoice in being imperfect and unlovable and pressing on! we will rejoice in our imperfections and how it has brought us closer to God! we will rejoice in being STILL married! i love that man of mine. i love him with depth, in letting him know that if he wakes up tomorrow being the worst version of himself that i will still be there for him, and if we lost everything we would still be together, that if our children got sick, or we lost our home, or he struggled with his faith, that i would love him none the less. none the less. because that i believe is what makes a good marriage. good, when it's bad. good when it's good.


"How would you ever learn unconditional love if you were married to someone who met all the conditions? How would you ever learn mercy, patience, longsuffering, heartfelt compassion if you were married to  someone who never failed you, who was never difficult with you, who never sinned against you, who was never slow to acknowledge their sin or ask for forgiveness? How would you ever learn grace to pour out your favor on someone who did not deserve it if you were married to someone who was always deserving of all good things? The main purpose of marriage is that, through your marriage you become conformed to the image of Jesus Christ. Marriage, I believe, is the greatest instrument of sanctification." - P. Washer
 
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